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Sugar-Daddy/Mommy 'Allowance Verification' Advance-Fee

A 'benefactor' promises a weekly allowance for little in return, but first you must 'verify' by paying a fee or sending a payment they'll 'refund.'

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What this scam is

Someone offers to pay you a generous weekly allowance as a 'sugar daddy/mommy' with no real strings. To start, they say they must 'verify' your payment method, or they send you a fake payment and ask you to send part back or pay a small activation fee. The allowance never materializes; the fee or 'refund' is the scam, and any check or transfer they send will bounce. It is an advance-fee con dressed as easy money.

What it usually looks like

  • An offer of a large weekly allowance for little effort.
  • A requirement to 'verify' your payment app or card.
  • A payment sent to you with a request to send some back.
  • A small 'activation' or 'verification' fee.

Common warning signs

  • Being asked to pay or send anything to receive an allowance.
  • 'Verification' that costs you money.
  • Payments you must partly return.
  • Pressure and flattery.

Example wording scammers use

I'll pay you $800/week — first, verify by sending a $50 gift card so I know you're real.
I sent your first allowance; just return $200 as the activation fee.

These are illustrative examples written by ScamSplain, not real messages.

What the scammers want

  • An upfront 'verification' or 'activation' fee.
  • You to send back part of a fake payment.
  • Your payment details.

What to do

  • Never pay to receive money; that is always a scam.
  • Do not 'verify' by sending gift cards or payments.
  • Ignore allowances that require anything from you first.
  • Block and report.

What to do if you already responded

  • Contact your bank/app about anything you sent.
  • Keep the messages as evidence.
  • Report at reportfraud.ftc.gov.

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